At work, that person was seen as popular, but on the other hand, I was seen as unreliable, and I still remember feeling very frustrated and sad about the gap between that and the reality. I am. At that time, I was swayed by the atmosphere around me and looked down on myself too much. Perhaps he saw a gap in his complex and approached me.
Well, that's what happened.
As someone like me who had never borrowed money from someone, I thought, ``Why would you ask me this?'' and ``How could this person say that they would borrow money from someone so easily?'' Even though they never give the money back. If it were me, I would have to work hard and get the money back as soon as possible. I don't have the financial wherewithal or deep pockets to be able to do that, like the middle-aged man at the pub or the mom at the snack bar who can afford to get promoted. It's not like the old man at the bar or the mom at the snack bar are willing to lend it to me. . Both of them must be thinking to themselves, ``Are they trying to destroy my store?''
So, I would like to go back to the topic of complaints and grumbling. People who complain and grumble may be better than others because it hits you directly in the heart, but I think they must have some really bad feelings towards themselves and be grinding their teeth in secret. I want to understand the feeling I get when I hear that as fundamentally the same as the feeling of "Why are they coming to borrow money from me, who has no money, that they'll never pay back?"
Why are they the same?
Complaining is dissatisfaction with the other person, and dissatisfaction is, in other words, a request. Because you think of the other person as inferior to yourself and look down on them, you can complain lightly. I don't care about the person I complained to. Debts that cannot be repaid are also blaming yourself. Even if you don't give it back, it will work out somehow, and you do it because you don't care what happens to the other person in the worst case scenario. In the end, both people who complain and complain, and people who ask for debts that they will never repay, are fundamentally the same in that they are belittling themselves and trying to get the other person to do what they want. I think you can say that.
that's why,
“Complaining is the same as debt, and debt is the same as complaining.”
I think you can say that.
So what should I do? It's simple and straightforward. If you don't like something, you don't have to deal with it. I think it's simply something that the other person doesn't have. In the end, I don't think things will go well with the person you complain to or the person who asked you for the loan. It is up to the other party to prove whether or not the other person is worthy of the debt or complaining about it, but it is difficult to borrow money from someone in a weaker position than yourself or complain about it. I have never heard of a successful person. When we hear stories of successful celebrities who borrowed money and took care of them when they were young, this is because someone in a higher position implicitly recognized their hard work. .
It's better not to borrow money from others, and it's better not to complain.
The only people who get that far are those who work hard.
