There are a lot of scandals happening in the world right now,
This time I would like to focus on the concept of "quality."
Both men and women are attracted to people who have class.
The word "elegance" embodies an aura of nobility that is difficult for anyone to violate, as well as intelligence, cleanliness, and many other elements.
The pinnacle of this is called elegance or refinement.
However, while both men and women ultimately desire refinement, it seems as though they are both struggling with a dilemma in which it is impossible for anyone to find it, and the more they seek it, the further away it seems to become.
For example, I think that the ideal man wants a woman who isn't cheap, but if that's the case, then naturally women are unable to express their inner desires swirling inside to men's faces.
If you openly state from the beginning that you are asking for compensated dating or that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and then decide things like 5,000 yen for tea, 10,000 yen for a meal, 50,000 yen for a night's stay, and that you always have to call a taxi home, it will seem less classy.
However, there are people who set these conditions beforehand when they are looking for a sugar daddy. It may seem like they have no class, but in a way, they may be honest.
Even in adult entertainment establishments and men's beauty salons, there are options, and each one has a price, such as 3,000 yen for this, or 3,000 yen for a costume change, but this is considered to be lacking in class. However, I think it is also true that deep down in my heart, there is a borderline that is not false or deceptive.
So, amidst all the fuss right now and all the opinions flying around about what exactly is the wrong way to play around, there are cases where women forgive the man they want and have fun, and then end up feeling dissatisfied because they were treated cheaply. This means that men have overlooked the fact that there is a borderline as mentioned above.
Although it would be fine to just include conditions from the beginning, I don't do so because it would make the product look unrefined.
Maybe that's how everyone struggles.
Everyone wants to be taken care of, but if there is nothing to be gained by maintaining dignity, then in the end it will produce nothing and you may just end up isolated. That is why men and women are always struggling to come to terms with this.
So what should we do?
How can women maintain their dignity and still meet good men?
In order for a woman to maintain her dignity, she needs to make the man endure to the very limit,
Women, too, shouldn't be able to hide their desires and act rashly.
However, if at some point they start to get fed up and start to feel dissatisfied because they have provided such expensive products but have not received anything in return, then it becomes a problem.
Why is it so easily influenced by such subtle tactics?
Thinking about it like that,
I think it comes down to whether you can afford it or not.
If you depend too much on a man, you will inevitably give in to what he wants, becoming a frivolous and cheap woman, and no matter how hard you try to hold back, you will eventually lose control.
Therefore, you need to become stable and independent in your daily life.
If you become independent, you will no longer be dependent on your partner, and when times get tough, a woman can just buy a man and do what he likes. Some men get fed up and leave, but I think women need to be patient and not be influenced by that.
Then she meets a good man, lives a life full of elegance, his partner also maintains his dignity, and the two of them love each other and can feel each other just by touching each other, and finally they will be in the relationship of their dreams.
Perhaps it is something that can only be attained through patience and hard work.
But what if that happens?
But is that really happiness?
I can imagine that it would take a very difficult journey, strict self-discipline, and wealth to get there.
But what should you do if, even just once, you encounter someone who tries to forcibly destroy your beliefs?
That's the kind of guy who appears at times like these, eager to get his hands on such an innocent woman.
Such new problems will also arise.
If that were to happen, would you be able to bear the feeling that you have once been tainted?
As you question yourself over and over again, how much do you have to face your wounded heart before you can return to your original, elegant self?
Who could reach such a place with a heart full of hatred?
If that's the case, then I think it's fine for men and women to hurt each other sometimes, as long as they can be relatively happy in a normal way.
Perhaps, in order to live a strong life, we don't need what society generally calls quality. Aren't things so fragile and easily broken?
I believe that true quality is not simply something that is spotless, but something that has endured the good and the bad and is on a level that no one can destroy.
I want to always live happily without being afraid of being destroyed.
I think we need to maintain that stance and remain strong at the same time.
In my work as a therapist, I am like a product displayed in a showcase, so men are always looking for someone new, someone rare, someone with class.
But I try not to put myself in that kind of situation.
In the end, you will only be able to attract those kinds of customers and they will be discarded.
Elegant and precious things are very fragile.
I think it would be great if I could have fun without forcing myself and meet customers who I really get along with.
I intend to take that stance.
I believe that the path to true work is to seek out that one and only exquisite or exceptional item.