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Yuri's slightly persistent morals: Thinking about why lying is wrong

 


Thank you all very much for always watching.
 
Today I would like to talk about why lying is wrong, from my own perspective.
 
So, when do you all lie?
I think these are the times when we lie.
"They lie to get out of the situation as if nothing had happened."
When we lie, we do it reflexively. Isn't that what most people do to protect themselves?
However, what I want to focus on here is that when we lie, it is basically about "ourselves." This is the fact that we are only thinking about ourselves and overlooking the other person.
I think we all lie to some degree, big or small, but when we think about why lying is wrong, we realize that the other person we are lying to, something we may not be very conscious of at the time, becomes very important.
 
“A liar is the beginning of a thief”
“If you lie, your tongue will be pulled out.”
 
As proverbs and other such sayings go, lying is wrong, but even though everyone knows this, I think the reality is that not many people realize how serious this is.
 
You can't understand the importance of this unless you're lied to.
You only realize it when you've been lied to.
I lied and realized how bad I was.
 
I would like to explain a little about what happens when you tell a lie.
 

 


A lie is the beginning of a thief


When you find out that someone is lying to you, it can be very intimidating for the person you are lying to.
For example, I had a lover.
That lover now has someone else to love.
And the other person is lying to avoid hurting you.
How would you feel if you were placed in that situation?
You start to notice that the other person's feelings are becoming more and more distant, and the stress gradually builds up. And why in my heart? As it gets bigger, my anxious delusions expand. What would you do if you were placed in such a situation?
 
Actually, I wish he would tell me sooner, but he doesn't tell me the truth because he has a hard time telling me the truth. From the moment you start telling lies, your feelings of anxiety begin to swell, and you feel an indescribable loneliness in your heart. If that's the case, you're probably suffering from the disease of love. When it starts, it's better to think things are going crazy and stay calm. You could say that he is already in a sick state.
 
But do they really think they've caused you that much pain?
On the contrary, I think they probably think that they tried hard not to hurt the other person.
But I don't think I really have to try too hard.
 
I believe that most mental illnesses are caused by being in an environment where people are told lies like this, which causes their anxious delusions to expand and lead to their illness. The example I used earlier was of a lover, but I think the same can be said of workplaces, family members, parents and children, and siblings.
Therefore, those who are lying should not lie for the sake of the other person.
 
That being said, people who lie aren't doing so intentionally, but rather lie naturally to protect themselves, so in that sense it is a just act to protect yourself, but it is still better to stop and think about the other person and the future, and not lie no matter how much you are ridiculed or insulted.
 
In other words, if you lie, you take away the other person's heart and cause them trouble,
It is looked down upon as "lying is the beginning of theft."
And by lying,
As the saying goes, ``If you lie, your tongue will be pulled out,'' and this can lead to people hating you and punishing you.
 
So, if you are in a relationship where you have to lie sooner or later, it is better to tell the truth and quit as soon as possible. If you are forced to do a job you hate at work, if you are having unbearable interpersonal problems, if there is something else you want to do, or if there is something you are thinking but cannot tell your family or partner, it would be better for both you and them if you told them as soon as possible and moved on to the next path.
 
I believe that lying so much is a greater sin than expected.
 

 

 

A lie is an expedient means

 

Some people may say that there is a saying that lies are expedient, but let's clarify when exactly this lie is used.
This is a proverb that comes from Buddhism, and its origins lie in the fact that the Buddha purposely lied and gave a false teaching in order to teach his disciples.
When you think about this, specifically when should you use it?
For example, if a parent was very worried about their child staying up late and not getting any sleep, the parent would tell a lie to the child saying, "If you don't go to bed early, a mountain witch will come and take you to the other world," and the child would then start going to bed early. This is the main usage of the phrase "a lie is a useful tool."
 
Other,
"The truth comes from a lie"
“Eight hundred lies”
There are many examples, but basically, lies are something that toy with people and can bring about bad things to happen to you, so it's best not to use them.
 
Anyway, I don't think you should lie.
I feel like this kind of thing needs to be properly taught in schools. I think life would be richer if we could just lie less and get tired less, and wouldn't the world be a lot different if there were no lying adults or lying politicians?
 
I want to live a life where I don't tell lies.
at least,
No matter how big a lie you tell, don't tell small lies either
In that spirit.