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Men's society mentality and cross-dressing society mentality

 

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This time I would like to talk about the mentality of being a man or a cross-dresser.
 
I think it's different for each person who cross-dresses, but I'd like to talk about the difference between when I'm a man and when I'm cross-dressing.
 
Cross-dressing means putting on makeup, wearing a wig, and wearing women's clothes, so another way to describe it would be disguise. Disguise can also be interpreted as hiding your usual self and pretending to be someone else, but the essence of cross-dressing, which is my hobby and my occupation, is to express the true self that I usually hide. I would like to talk about the mentality and spirituality of each of these things from my perspective on cross-dressing.
 
 

 


Men's society mentality


To be honest, I felt very cramped living as a man. I always felt like I was being oppressed by those around me without even knowing it. However, over the years, it has become commonplace for me not to be able to express myself. I think this is naturally the case because in a strictly male society, there is a mentality that people shouldn't let out. For example, femininity is the opposite of masculinity. Being a man also means being free-spirited and having a competitive instinct to win or lose within the established hierarchies of male society. The fun and challenge of trying to win it is a benefit. And I think there are many women who are often jealous of that. However, for people like me, the masculinity that allows us to survive in a male-dominated society can sometimes become a sword against ourselves.
 

 


I have struggled in such a male-dominated society for many years, and now that I think about it, it was very difficult for me. For someone like me who lacks courage, my only weapons were the patience to endure whatever was said to me, and the ability to make calm judgments that were true to my heart. Through such effort and perseverance, I was able to gain some control over my opponent, but that didn't last long. As a man, I have a weak point, so they attack me often, and everyone tries to take a deep breath at my feet. And eventually, you'll run out of energy to endure it. Living in a man's society is a struggle, and one must be brave. He needs the strength to attack bravely, and women are attracted to such men.

 


 
The mentality of cross-dressing society


However, when I was cross-dressing, I was able to distance myself from that world a little. When a man cross-dresses and becomes like a woman, there is no competition in a male society, and on the contrary, a completely opposite nature arises in which men compete with each other over their cross-dressing self. That's probably the big difference between the mentality of a man and the mentality of a woman. Looking back and remembering what kind of person I was as a child, I now realize that without even realizing it, I had been living with the mentality of a cross-dresser. If anything, I'm not the type of person who makes friends on my own, but rather I'm the type of person who improves and improves myself, and then waits for people to become my friends by letting people around me see what I've done. Now that I think about it, I am grateful that I had friends who needed me like that. When I was a child in elementary school, I had friends who would fight over me because I instinctively behaved that way. Every time I remember something like that, my heart hurts and I think, ``What the hell did I let this happen?'' But now I realize that that's just my true nature.
 

 


Is it the same for women? Or am I the only one who wears cross-dressing? I don't know what other people think, but if I look at it calmly, I think it's probably in the nature of women in general to improve themselves in this way and then wait for a man.
 
Of course, there is also competition as a cross-dresser. That means you have to improve yourself to the point where men will compete with you, and you have to compete with other cross-dressers and transsexuals. This may be the same framework as competition in a male society. However, the events in which they compete are completely different. If we simply categorize the events, if men compete for strength and power, then cross-dressing and women compete for charm. If the type of struggle is completely different, the emotions involved will also be different. If a man fights and punches each other, it's a no-side. After a fight, I feel refreshed and refreshed without any aftertaste. On the other hand, when it comes to competing for attractiveness as a cross-dresser, it is said that the competition between women is ugly in general society, and it is true that because they compete for attractiveness as a person, they have more hidden feelings of jealousy and hatred than men. I think it's quite complicated. When it comes to same-sex competition, there is a big difference between the mentality of men and the mentality of cross-dressers.

 

 


summary


I have talked about the mentality of a man's society and the mentality of a cross-dressing society. I think that if you divide the society in which you live in this way, it will be easier to determine which society it is easier to live in from birth to death. Also, by knowing these characteristics of society, you will be able to understand why some people are able to adapt well while others are unable to adapt. I think it would be fine if we could continue to win and win and win in the tournament called life, but that's not the case for all humans. You will always lose at some point, and you will have to find a place where you can come to terms and settle down. Each person has a place that suits them, and choosing a competitive arena that suits you will give you an advantage in your life. Nowadays, people are calling for a shift towards genderlessness and diversity, but without any boundaries as to whether you are a man or a woman, you should break away from stereotypes and quickly find a place where you can enjoy your life and a place where you can live well. This will give you a guaranteed victory in life, and you will no longer need to hurt yourself unnecessarily.
 
I hope that we will develop into a more diverse society, where everyone can live happily and where everyone can play an active role.
 
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